Jeremy and I met on E Harmony! It was great fun! It all started back in May of 08 (ok, that's not that far back). I had just returned from a vacation in California (visiting my family and friends) and having had some recent turbulents in the relationship department, I decided (with my mother's prompting) that I absolutely knew no men that I would even consider marrying. To prove this to myself (that I would no longer wait for any guys that I knew to evolve into my prince) I joined Eharmony. I really had no expectations going into it except to have fun and maybe possibly a small chance of actually meeting someone worth being with. It WAS really fun, being a self reflector I found it incredibly enlightening to fill out the three hours of intense questions they ask you to begin matching you. It really helped me to narrow down what kind of man I wanted to marry...are you ok with (fill in the blank)...how ok are you with (previous blank)...etc. Some things I thought I was fine with only to find out that when matched with a guy with that trait, I couldn't do it. My previous inclinations became concrete resolves. At first it's hard to turn matches down, but within a couple of weeks you just aren't willing to fart around with someone you would not want to be with...would that the real dating world was like this people would choose better mates! It's much easier over the computer...you shut someone down...select a reason that is more or less neutral and move on to your other matches...and they do the same. Now if he is a guy that frequents the coffee shop where you work, that's a different matter! You can't just say...I don't think we have chemistry (at least I couldn't say that). Anyway, I was having fun getting to know myself...then I read Jeremy's profile. I was floored..I laughed I cried, I was touched, intrigued, and enlightened. I really fell noggin over bum for him that instant. Not only was I eager to get to know him...when his description of his ideal girl was Cake's song, Short Skirt Long Jacket, I knew he would GET me! He was not the typical Christian on E Harmony (Favorite person: Jesus; Favorite book: the Bible; Favorite TV show: 7th Heaven...Yuck)! I'm not like that...I love Jesus very much but I also love beer and good food and great music, designer jeans, vanilla cigarettes...7th Heaven guys would not understand me. And so I sent him an "icebreaker" that said "Your profile brought a smile to my face." Now I never sent out icebreakers, but I just felt like if he came into my coffee shop I would not hesitate to strike up a conversation with him...bat my girly eyelashes and smile coquettishly at him while I made him his Americano. Plus I knew he was probably receiving as many matches as I was and I was not going to be thrown out with the masses. To my joy, he replied back. We went through the round of communication that is structured by EHarmony and then he suggested we go to real email if I so desired. I did. Oh I did. Thus started the beginning of our 80 pages of dating...
to be continued...